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If your kid has ever turned your own parenting lines back on you, no shame, they’re just good listeners. 😅 Kids try on our words the same way they try on our shoes. Here’s what to keep in mind for each one:
👉🏽#1: Kids copy the “two options” trick because it works on them. Naming the want (“both sound fun”) takes the sting out of the no, and you stay in charge of the plan while they still get a say in the pick.
👉🏽#2: Counting to 5 is a common parenting script, and kids repeat what they hear. Answering with “tell me what you need” gives them the tool they were missing instead of a countdown. If you’ve been counting a lot, it’s okay to have a quick reset conversation (“I’ve noticed I’ve been counting too much. Let’s find another way to work as a team...”) also shows them that adults change their own patterns.
👉🏽#3: “Take a big breath” is your own calming script coming back at you. Thanking them shows it works, and they get to watch you use it. It also helps you feel how the script feels on the other side (in case you want to switch up your language).
Bonus: if they say, “I told you don’t do that!” (even though you didn’t), try, “It seems like you don’t like when I do that. You can say, ‘Mommy, can you please not do that?’”
Remember, children pick up language from everywhere: home, other adults, friends, screens. Rather than shut it down (“Don’t talk to me like that!!”), help them learn to use their words well.
Which one does your kid say most? Comment 1, 2, or 3 (and add YES if you want a Part 2). 👇🏽
06 Nov 2026
Pheww, these moments are so hard! We feel frustrated, flustered, and disappointed. We feel unheard and disrespected and it can feel tempting to tell our child we're disappointed in them (or what they're doing).
Our child’s response is the clue. When a child asks, “Why are you happy with her and mad at me?” they’re asking, "are we still okay?" To shift this, focus on how you feel (“I feel disappointed right now”) and what to do next.
What do you think? Is it okay to say “I’m disappointed in you”?
05 Nov 2026
If you’ve ever stopped mid-reaction and wondered, “Wait, do I need a consequence for this?”, then this is for you! Here are some important things to keep in mind for each point.
👉🏽#1: Kids learn fast whether telling the truth is safe. If we punish/shame them after they confess, we run the risk of teaching them to hide their mistakes next time. The key here is to help them reflect on the feelings that drove their decision (ex: your child might say, “I was jealous of my sister. I didn’t like feeling outshined and this is why I decided to hide her homework”), how that decision impacted others, and how to make it right.
👉🏽#2: A rule nobody said out loud can’t be broken on purpose. They need clarity and a chance to practice.
👉🏽#3: The natural consequence already did it’s job, so doubling down and adding an “I told you so” (I know it’s tempting!) or a punishment moves their attention from the lesson to defensiveness. Your empathy leaves room for them to think about next time.
Which one is hardest for you? Comment 1, 2, or 3 (and add YES if you want a Part 2). 👇🏽
04 Nov 2026
Let's talk in the comments - Has your child ever mistaken your serious voice for mad? 1 = all the time, 2 = sometimes, or 3 = not yet?
By the way, I originally shared this inside my Morning Thoughts (inside my Stories). Be sure to tune in over there for daily parenting insights, scripts and stories from my own parenting. ☕💌
03 Nov 2026
A bossy kid is a natural leader who is still practicing listening and seeing others’ point of view. 😅🫶🏽
👉🏽Script 1: Kids who boss usually have big ideas and haven’t learned that play is a shared story. We want to help them understand what playing together really means and give them a choice. “What’s her idea?” also helps them practice picturing what’s in someone else’s head, a skill kids are still building.
👉🏽Script 2: Young kids (esp ages 4-8) see rules as fixed and fairness as black and white, so a broken rule feels like something has to be fixed right now. Teaching your kid to check in (“Can we check the rule?”) gives them a way to keep things fair w/o taking over the game or attacking someone.
👉🏽Script 3: Kids repeat what works. If we answer the order, we teach that ordering works. If we answer the question, we teach that asking works.
Do you have a natural born leader on your hands? Which one is your kid’s go-to, 1, 2, or 3? If it’s a different moment, i would love to know what it looks like at your house.🫶🏽
801 likes · 21 comments · 02 Nov 2026
Mantra for the week: Small shifts in how we respond create big changes in how they react.
When you shift these 5 patterns, you'll see behavior shift too:
✅Tell instead of ask
✅Say it once, then add action
✅Be consistent even when you're exhausted
✅Don't negotiate after you've said no
✅Regulate first, teach later
Pick ONE to work on this week. Just one.
PS: Don't forget to download my free Script Pack for exact phrases to use during tantrums, defiance, transitions & sibling fights. Link in bio ↑
3,900 likes · 22 comments · 01 Nov 2026
Your 2-5 year old might not tell you what they need, but they’ll leave you clues. Common clues that are easy to overlook: demanding to be heard during play, climbing on everything (and yell “Watch me!”), and whining to help with things they’re not ready for yet. 😅
Comment SCRIPTS and I’ll send you my free Script Pack, with some of my fav scripts for defiance, tantrums, and more!
PS: Want more like this? I share a Morning Thought in my Stories every day, which are short parenting reflections to help you see the hard moments differently. Tap my photo to catch today’s ☕💌
397 likes · 25 comments · 30 Oct 2026
Let's talk in the comments - Which one are you sensing right now in your child?
4,463 likes · 35 comments · 29 Oct 2026
I’m willing to bet that your kid is going to say something mean this week. I know this is a lot easier said than done, but try to remember that inside the moment, the goal isn’t to win the argument or “come out on top.” Our goal as parents is to give them better words to use. 😅😮💨
Then, outside the moment, when everyone’s calm, let them know:
👉🏽 Words are powerful.
👉🏽 People don’t forget what you say, even when you say sorry.
👉🏽 And here’s exactly what to say next time you have big feelings: “I’m really angry right now.” “I need a minute.” “I need some space.” “That felt really unfair to me.”
Note: For kids 4 and under, skip the big talk and focus on in-the-moment teaching.
PS: Want more like this? Be sure to tune into my daily Morning Thoughts inside my Stories. Every day I share short parenting reflections to help you see the hard moments differently. Come say hi in my Stories ☕💌
7,952 likes · 92 comments · 28 Oct 2026
Ahh, helping our children navigate their friendships from the sidelines can feel so tricky. How much to guide versus listen is often what we ask ourselves. As a rule of thumb, especially as your child gets older, it's best to lean towards asking more questions and trusting in them to handle these situations (easier said than done, I know). I hope these conversational starters help. Which one are you trying this week? Comment 1-6 👇🏽
710 likes · 13 comments · 27 Oct 2026
Trying to get a busy, curious and impulsive little boy to listen is no easy feat but it can be done. 😅 I find that it often comes down to timing and making my instructions easy to follow and fun. Whenever I can summon enough energy to make these fun, I’m gold.
Let’s talk in the comments - When do you notice the most pushback (tuning you out, backtalk, etc)? Getting out the door, clean-up, bedtime, something else? Tell me below, with their age 👇🏽
PS: I share a Morning Thought in my Stories every day. They’re basically short parenting reflections to help you see the hard moments differently before the day gets going. Come say hi in my Stories.☕💌👋🏽
458 likes · 17 comments · 13 Oct 2026
Has your child ever used a parenting script on you, but in a rude way? 1600+ of you said YES (93% of votes)!!
By the way, all of this came from a recent backtalk series I did inside my Morning Thoughts. For those of you that are not familiar, I post Morning Thoughts daily inside my Stories. They are short parenting reflections I share every morning while drinking my coffee.
Which one are you going to try first, 1-7? Save this for the next time your child talks to you like a parent. 😅😮💨
PS: I’m gathering my favorite Morning Thoughts into a book and it's coming out soon! Until then, be sure to follow along in my Stories for a new one each day. 💌☀️☕
1,324 likes · 12 comments · 12 Oct 2026
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