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Divorced couples therapist & author Helping women who are done saying “I’m fine” 👇PRE-ORDER Let It Fall Apart 📕 out •••
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📢 EXCITING BOOK NEWS 📢
Coming March 9, 2027 from marriage and family therapist @holisticallygrace, LET IT FALL APART shows readers how to stop believing the lies that keep you powerless and start seeing your potential for greater happiness and love.
You’re fine. Just keep going. Try harder. Do any of these sound familiar? They should. They’re the lines we’ve committed to memory and repeat when we’re struggling. They also happen to be the lies women have been taught to keep the peace and carry on — even if it means ignoring the things we know to be true, especially in our most intimate relationships. But this well-intentioned script only keeps us stuck in a cycle of people-pleasing, self-abandonment, and disappointment.
Blending psychological insights and therapeutic strategies with stories from clients and her own journey through the end of her marriage, Maria G. Sosa shows how to recognize these lies at work in your own life. You’ll learn how to challenge them, make peace with the roads not taken, and trade right-or-wrong thinking for the best decision — so you can rewrite a life that is for you, by you.
Whether you’re deciding to stay or leave a relationship, making a midlife pivot, or reevaluating the choices you’ve made in life, letting it fall apart might be the counterintuitive move you never thought you needed.
29 Oct 2026
“I just need to keep it together a little longer.”
Until the holidays are over. Until things calm down at work. Until the kids get older. Until... it gets better.
Only it never does.
So how do you know when to keep holding on, and when you need to let it fall apart?
That’s what the women I work with struggle with most. It’s also what kept me in limbo in my own marriage: the obsession with making the “right” decision, the one I’d never regret.
I knew we weren’t alone in that stuckness, so I wrote a book with @penguinlifeus ! (Pinch me!)
Let It Fall Apart is for those of us who are exhausted from second-guessing every choice and are ready to finally trust ourselves.
Whether it’s a marriage, a job, a friendship, or a version of your life you’ve outgrown, this book will pour you a glass of milk, hand you a warm chocolate chip cookie, and help you move forward without the guilt.
This book is for you. It’s for me (because I still need it!). It’s for all of us.
It’s officially available for preorder 🤍 Comment BOOK and I’ll send you the link. And if someone in your life needs this, please share it with her.
BTW: preorders make a huge difference for authors, so help your girl out. Thank you!
29 Oct 2026
I used to think love was enough.
That if you just tried hard enough, communicated better, showed up “the right way”… you could make it work.
But then my own marriage ended.
And no amount of training or tools could save it.
Since then, I’ve left the house I called home, moved in with my girlfriends (cats, dogs, and all), and rebuilt a version of life I never planned for—but one that’s finally mine.
So yeah, my content’s changed.
This space is still about relationships—
but now it’s about the ones we let go of.
The ones that break our hearts open.
The ones that teach us who we are without the roles we clung to.
If you’re in the in-between, asking
“Have I done enough?”
“Is it time to let go?”
“Will I survive the end of this?”
You’re not alone.
Start here. And if you know someone who needs to read this, send this post to them ❤️
07 Apr 2025
You’re going to regret something either way. Let it be a choice you made, not one that was made for you.
11 Nov 2026
Making the choice to end a relationship doesn’t mean you get to skip the grief. You can miss them and still know it was the best choice for you. Questioning it all doesn’t mean you made the wrong choice, it means it was a hard choice.
10 Nov 2026
None of these “fix” everything. They just remind your brain that the sun continues to shine, the earth continues to spin at about 1,000 miles per hour, and your life continues. You continue.
1. Look for a glimmers.
A glimmer is the opposite of a trigger, a small moment that tells your nervous system you’re safe. Before your feet hit the floor, notice: the light peeking through the window, the feel of cozy sheets on your skin, or the birds chirping outside. After an ending, your brain scans all day for what’s gone. Give it something beautiful to find first.
2. Read one page before you touch your phone.
Keep a book on your nightstand and read one page before you scroll. Whatever goes into your brain first sets the tone for the day. Make it something you chose, not whatever dumpster fire is playing out on social media.
3. Finish this sentence: “Today I’m looking forward to ___.”
It can be tiny, like a nice, long, hot shower or ordering takeout from your favorite Thai place. When life falls apart, the days start to blur into one long Groundhog Day. Having one small thing to look forward to gives your brain a sense of moving forward again, even if it’s just to dinner.
4. Drop the ball on purpose.
Find the task on your to-do list that feels overwhelming but also isn’t really yours to carry. Say out loud, “I don’t have the capacity to do this today.” Some people might be disappointed, but the people who love you will understand.
5. Do one ordinary thing the wrong way.
Brush your teeth with your other hand, make your coffee iced instead of hot, or get in your car through the passenger side if you want to feel slightly unhinged. Novelty gives your brain a small hit of dopamine and makes it more open to building new habits. Every small, weird change sends the same message: we’re not there anymore.
09 Nov 2026
Since no one else is going to say it...
One more conversation isn’t what you need.
Silence is also closure.
Indifference is also closure.
Disconnection is also closure.
Thoughtlessness is also closure.
What you need is everything they’ve already given you through their words and actions.
06 Nov 2026
Which one of these says;
Thanks for cheating on me, I wrote a book about it and made the NYTimes bestseller list!
Yes, I’m manifesting this book baby to the top of the list!
But also, help me pick my author picture! 1-6 Which one is your favorite?
05 Nov 2026
And hey, I didn’t break out in hives this time!
What is one thing you learned in therapy that you’ll never forget?
03 Nov 2026
In the spirit of Halloween, let’s talk about things that are ✨actually✨ scary.
30 Oct 2026
I would be lying if I said I’ve never used a car ride music session to let it all out.
What’s on your “going through it” playlist?
27 Oct 2026
It’s not too late.
If you’re feeling stuck, if you’re feeling forced, if you’re feeling obligated, please know,: you can choose differently. You can change your mind.
You can stop the wedding. The marriage. The job. The dream. The goal. The thing you were supposed to do or be.
26 Oct 2026
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